Kindness vs Politeness

I often feel that the really important things in life depend on small things like the difference between kindness and politeness. Politeness is a way to behave. I don't think there is any special value in it, it is a necessity. Be polite in an argument for example, and if the other is not, the blame will fall on his side even if he has a point otherwise. Thus it may easily be a defence, and a way of keeping distance, which is why it is often so cold. Kindness on the other hand is the luxury of warmth. You don't have to be kind, it is enough to be polite, but if you are, that indeed has a special value. You can make others face up the cruelest of realities with kindness if you so choose, and it does make a difference. But like any luxury, kindness is easier to lose, and quite frequently it will never be returned. It may change your life if it is, and so it may if suddenly kindness freezes into politeness in a relationship. Still, unlike politeness, kindness can never be enforced. Both the lack and enforcement of kindness, or any similar luxury, would spawn emotional beasts of all sorts... It is also true that kindness as a milder emotional excitement comes in waves, it is not and should not be as uniform as politeness may be. Thus, in many long lasting relationships it is the combination of the two that provides longevity, where politeness fills in (and not replaces) the gaps for another wave to come.